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FAST-tracking the Dating Process

September 20th 2007 04:03
heart cloud blue sky

Who really has the time to date these days? Besides trying to maintain a 9-5 job, going to the gym, spending time in queues, blogging(!!), and amongst other mundane activities – do people really have time to date?

Dating or rather courtship was once revered and considered as a means of finding a life-partner (usually for economic and family reasons). It had less to do with this mushy thing called ‘romance’. As with all things progressing, someone commercialised the aspects of dating into fluffy clouds and pink hearts. So, now we tend to be more selective based on numerous factors, romance included. Being selective means spending even more time to cull away the ineligible – so what can people do?

heart flowers

Internet Dating – the people behind the websites have a shortlist for you. You can ‘sort and search’ based on numerous factors from simple things like age, hair colour, etc to preference for pets/children to political view! Hopefully there aren’t too many cyberpsychopaths listed… Hmm, perhaps they should add police history to the ‘sort and search’.

Speed dating – probably the best way to meet people if you’re just counting heads. You attend a *date* with an even number of males and females – apparently between 10-15 people of each gender. You swap *dates* every few minutes – usually between 6-10minutes. There’s more to it and it varies with the different speed dating agencies, but essentially, at the end of the *date*, each person decides if they’ll like a real date with anyone they met. An adult version of ‘musical chairs’ if you must, and a good way of *collecting* friends.


Dial Dine a Partner – don’t like dining alone? Well, there are agencies who can help you find a lunch or dinner date. No, I won’t liken it as an escort service because you are matched according to your criteria for a long-term partner. If you’re a foodie, this may be the right approach – checkout a new restaurant and score a partner. If it doesn't work-out, at least you've reviewed a restaurant!

couple holding hands

No excuse for not having a date now… Happy Dating!

Have you/anyone you know tried any of these time-saving dating approaches? What was it like?



p/s…perhaps that’s why we tick the boxes…to save time!






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Comment by katyzzz

September 20th 2007 04:44
Slow down, you move too fast. [well known song]

Love the first heart in particular. A good pic and I'm anyone's, if you don't have time to greet how are you ever going to meet LONG TIME.

I'm ready for the speed dating, put me down with the slow movers and groovers.
Cut some of the gym, cut some of the blogging, cut some of the other things you do, keep Saturday night and Sunday free for HIM. Lower your expectations, chat up those around you, chat to the dog owners while you are walking, best that you like dogs.

How am I doing?

It's just a matter of stats, really, and the stats ain't good.

Am I improving or getting worse.

Love katyzzz....sorry but I just won't do.


Comment by AmyHuang

September 20th 2007 05:02
I have a tendency to just meet people when I travel - unfortunately none of the good men can ever come home with me!

Fortunately in my last travel I met someone who is actualy from Sydney. *phew* about time I stop the long distance trends!

Yes - no excuse for having no time to date - it's not time anyone lacks - it's motivation!

Comment by Louie

September 20th 2007 05:19
I moved in with my cleaner!!!! didnt even have to leave the house!!!!!! and now I get freebies

Comment by David

September 20th 2007 05:21
Great aticle.

It gets to the heart (and mind) of the matter.

Comment by KylieW

September 20th 2007 07:13
I know people who have tried speed dating. None have had much success.

Others I know have had some success with internet dating........but then those people have also met their share of freaks!!!

But hey, at least they're out there giving it a go

Comment by Always Eighteen

September 20th 2007 18:53
Yo! Lara!

How about mail order brides?

Wow, I haven't been on Orble for a while - I've been wrapped up in exams. It's good to read from you

To answer your question, I haven't. A friend of mine is hooked on those dating websites though.


Comment by DuskDevi

September 21st 2007 01:35
Hi Lara...

I know of one friend who joined a dating site because her job is not conducive to meeting eligible men (she's a 'freelance' midwife!)...and she travels a lot.
So far...no good but...she feels this is her last resort. She wants to have a baby before she's 40 and feels that this is the 'honest' way of finding a like minded partner. (because she just asks upfront!)

I'm not convinced this is the answer but I'm not walking in her shoes.
I have a feeling she'll meet her 'one' when she least expects it.

I just read in Sunday's paper (supplement) that the gym is the place to meet potential partners...because if you're using the gym as intended, you should be at your worst...and therefore stripped of articfice!

AND...I do know a couple that met in a queue! 7 years later, happily married!

Hope you're well Lara...

Dusk

Comment by Anonymous

September 21st 2007 05:07
Try recycling...it has worked for me...someone from your past might just be the right one!

Comment by Ash

September 22nd 2007 05:54
Hey Lara

I haven`t tried or know anyone who has tried any of these... but you hear of love stories from across the world so they must work for some.

I can`t remember where I heard it but I heard the other day of a couple meeting at a traffic light! So you just never know where love will strike.

Ash

Comment by Lara M

September 27th 2007 00:43
Hi everyone...thanks for your comments and support. Really sorry for being M.I.A ...am in a *strange* space at the mo'...but all's a-ok. Will visit soon.

>>>>>

I like your spirit, katyzzz Always willing to give it a go! I think your'e improving...and will improve...





That's a nice way to meet people, Amy -- good free accommodation all around the world, pretty cool Glad it all worked out -- I'm not a big fan of long-distance relationships either...





Louie...what a fab deal! I detest house-work so I can see LOTS of pros in that relationship!





It's about the heart, mind and will, huh David.




Hi Kylie...I've two friends who've successfully dated using internet dating - one's happily married for more than 5 years now, and the other is on the verge of it...so it can work, but not without a teeny share of the oddities! (and frustrations...) Hats off to those who dare to try all these unconventional avenues...

Comment by Lara M

September 27th 2007 01:01
Mail-order brides/grooms...that's a SCARY an idea, Dean. ...but worth a try?! Good to see u...





Dusk...I think your friend is right in pursuing that path. I think because it's *always* upfront, that's why it can work. That's the same with my friend too -- people who get on those sites usually have the same objective and are *honest*...

The gym can work too! I know people who've met at the gym. I think you're accurate re. being all natural, but also it is about being like u said earlier, like-minded.

I like your 'meeting in the queue story'





Anon...yes, I know a couple of *recycled* successes





I can`t remember where I heard it but I heard the other day of a couple meeting at a traffic light! So you just never know where love will strike.
What a cute story, Ash! I can see how it's possible at the traffic or even the pedestrian crossing...waiting for the 'green man' to flash, which can take ages sometimes! I think it strikes when we least expect it... Key being positive and open...

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