Keeping IT Nourished
December 14th 2007 03:33
Experts say that a relationship need to be tended to regularly – requiring a balance of communication, regular love and affection, and a sustenance of different activities to keep the relationship happy and growing.
Before the drought gets to it or the weeds grow…
Similar values and principles
In moments of passion or even loneliness, we sometimes forget our own values and principles. That’s when we see the potential in the person rather than who s/he is – with fleeting thoughts that perhaps s/he can be moulded, which often than not is a blurred vision of what the relationship is/could be.
Talking about what you believe a relationship is to you is the foundation step of starting off on the right foot.
Shared Future
Do you want the same things in the near or distant future? What about children – how important is that to you? How about spending a few years overseas?
A shared future is how a relationship can flourish and grow together.
Respect
- Loving the person for who s/he is – look pass the flaws, and look at the positives.
- Saying thank you and appreciating all gestures, even the little ones.
- Talking to the person, and not at nor down at the person.
- Be able to forgive…to let the warmth into your relationship again.
Sharing and Enjoying
A balance of shared tasks at home is the likely scenario these days – be it parenting or keeping home, sharing allows both partners to be a part of the bigger picture.
However, don’t forget your playtime without the kids. Plan activities that include the kids, but also plan activities for just you and your partner. While it is important to have your own time, it is just as important to be sharing common activities together…and enjoying that time with each other.
Communication
That was the key take-away from all the experts. Communicate, communicate, communicate... – from unpleasant matters to happy matters, the lines of communication between the two of you must always be open. Keeping emotions and feelings bottled-up will only make either of you a walking time-bomb, so best to talk it through.
How do you and/or would you nourish your relationship? What to you is important?
Images courtesy of DHarder (1st pix), Gabana (2nd pix) and Clarita (3rd pix), morgueFile.
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Comment by katyzzz
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Luvs ya, katyzzz
Comment by Michaelie
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Spot on, Lara!
Michaelie
Comment by Lara M
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Yea, Michaelie. I couldn't go out with someone who has *problems* communicating. That as you pointed out is so foundational (in any type of relaitonship).
Hope you ladies are enjoying a nice and easy Friday arvo. Me...having a cuppa and some soul music in the background... Vino will be out in about 2 hours...?
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I think communication is hugely important in any relationship.
Have a good weekend chicks!
Comment by Lara M
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I had these at a lovely bar/restaurant by the beach in Noosa, soooo YUM. Cheers ladies!
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Comment by Rosemary
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You do tend to take people for granted when they're around all the time.
A bit like furnishings. They're there and you get used to them being there. You only notice them when they're no longer there, or when something goes wrong with them.
It takes great effort to appreciate an old, worn out carpet.
A nice red, or even a Chardy for me thanks.
Cheers.
Comment by tlcorbin
So, I've determined to learn her love language; what it is that shows and tells her on all levels that she is loved and cherished. It's a 'relationship long' process. That, and I just love 'hanging out with her' Lara. Raven
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I agree with all the points you shared here. There's also something in trying to understand and cherish your differences. Becoming too alike isn't really a good thing, I guess. The differences, as long as you manage them well, add that needed mystery.
Comment by Lara M
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Such wise words again, Raven -- really insightful. There is certainly a lot of give and take, and a reasonable amount of mutual compromises.
Yes...definitely shared passions too, WYS
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