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How do/would you INDULGE the love-of-your life?

August 19th 2007 08:00
Tiffany gift box and bag


There’s something really nice about receiving a beautifully wrapped box with a big ribbon around it. Most of the time, it makes you feel special… …or even turn a bad day into a good one. Many of us enjoy receiving presents. Perhaps it’s because we were conditioned from young that receiving a gift means you’re special or that the person giving it to you loves/likes you.


When it comes to the love-of-of-your-life (or even a potential), do you pull out all stops to reveal the romantic you or do you prefer the practical approach of special events only?

Joe enjoys spreading his love around (and I do mean the un-romantic kind of love too!). He’s generous by nature and loves buying gifts of all kinds, shapes or sizes for just about anyone. Naturally when it comes to his other-half, she is guarantee to be spoiled! His last girlfriend received a new set of lingerie (almost) every week…plus a romantic home-cooked meal – yep, Joe does have some (nice and) domestic qualities about him. ...and to top off the evening, a specially drawn bath with candles and bubbles (of both kinds).

Sonia on the other end of the line though, once had a boyfriend who was a little too tight in the pockets. He never gave her anything or even properly took her out. Anyway, on their six-month anniversary (though not a big deal of a celebration), he suggested a fish and chips dinner from a cheapie take-away. One the walk back to his apartment, he plucked some flowers from the neighbours’ gardens for her – sort of a romantic gesture…? When they got home, he drew her a bath with the works – wow, he was splurging she thought. A short-lived thought...30 minutes later she came out smelling like a public restroom’s air-freshener! He had used some bubble bath gel from the dollar-store!


colourful gift wrapper-and big bow
by Cohdra

What have you been indulged with…or what’s your idea of indulging your other half?

Was there a time you felt that the indulger should’ve just not spoil/pamper you?


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Comment by Ash

August 19th 2007 08:38
Hi Lara

hahahaha! what a great question. I have been out with both types of blokes... one guy would arrange for intimate rendevouz on a wooded hilltop overlooking a dam at sunset with giraffe and buffalo coming down to drink at the waters edge. He would provide everything from a blanket to sit on to perfectly chilled wine and just the right words to woo even the most hard hearted. For my birthdays he would send enormous bouquets of flowers to be delivered and hidden in the arrangements would be all sorts of surprises from perfume to small teddy bears. Valentines Days he would have a single rose delivered every hour to work. Once I was woken in the middle of the night and presented with a perfect red rose... in the centre of which was the most beautiful necklace.

Then I went out with another one whose idea of making our one year anniversary a really memorable ocassion was to split the bill and then give me the actual bill as the reminder of the night! He was a real Cassanovo! Romantic dinners involved me cooking while he played video games... and him eating while playing video games!

Yes I have seen both sides of the coin and I would definitely go for the romantic... I love surprises, they don`t have to involve expensive gifts or outrageous experiences... just simple, old fashioned romance and I`m won over!

ash

Comment by katyzzz

August 19th 2007 08:51
WOW Ash, I like the first one, how on earth did you bear the second, for me not even for a minute.

Lara,

What absolutely gorgeous wrapping, for mine it was just bed, didn't care about anything else.

I wouldn't give one the time of day anymore. The other was the love of my life, he was so easily pleased, maybe if I had my time again one of Charles' cars, but he wouldn't expect a woman to provide such things.

Actually I gave him a book once which I thought he'd love, then he complained about how much money I'd spent on books and on that occasion most were for him. Guess he wasn't the love of my life after all. But he was better, much better than the other miserable swine.

Of course, I'm leaving out all the boyfriends, there was a long list of those, but I can't remember doing much for them other than giving them the pleasure of my company and some 'mild' perks.

It is difficult to express these things without giving the show away or suggesting a show which
didn't really exist.

For my fantasy man, I'd give him a bit hug. And a wonderful walk along the beach.

That's a book, for me.

Loves ya, katyzzz

Comment by Chic Critique

August 19th 2007 10:49
My hubby likes to cook for me all the time, which I appreciate of course (sometimes I have my suspicion that he is my obesity enabler though )

Like all girls, I like fun surprises, and pressies, and flowers.

I like treating my hubby to a nice relaxing massage.

Cheers
CC
PS. Is that a box and bag from Tiffany's???


Comment by David

August 19th 2007 23:36
Lara,

Having read this post and the comments, I'm not writing any more poetry for women. They'll only accuse me of using cheap paper. Or even worse? Of avoiding the cost of paper, and postage and handling costs by emailing a poem). And then tell me it's not the thought or the time put into the thought that counts but the monetary value of the gift itself. How much the paper cost, where I bought it from, or how the wrapping paper and bow was low quality and cheap, because they went to the shop the tag indicated it was purchased from and checked the price against the cost of expensive wrapping and bows from upmarket boutiques in the suburb they dream of living in.

Thank God I no longer have a love of my life.

This was a very instructional subtextual post on what women really think of men. It's gone a long way to explaing why Joe Jackson sang about pretty women marrying ugly gorillas with fat wallets. Ultra-independent femmo women only go for rich men (with cooking skills) who will support them financially and play househusband?

I'd love to write a serious response but I can't remember back that far.

David ...

Comment by Aimzster

August 20th 2007 03:01
You know what? I can't remember a single thing in recent months where my hubby has indulged me. Oh alright, he does little things for me every now and then but no all out indulging - surprising me with a helicopter ride or something. Humph. Well, this year, I indulged him by kidnapping him for his birthday and taking him to climb the Sydney Harbour Bridge and buying him that big camera he loves. And for his next bday, I'm kidnapping him and taking him for a drive around NZ.

PS. Hehehe..I love the 2nd story.

Comment by Lara M

August 20th 2007 07:33
That first guy sure knew how to woo, Ash!
...just simple, old fashioned romance and I`m won over!
... I agree, it doesn't have to cost but the thought has to be there... Thanks for sharing



Thanks, katyzzz -- only the first pix is mine though
Your love sounds like a great guy -- I guess appreciating the small stuff can sometimes mean the most. ...and what you'd give your fantasy man sounds divine! Hugs are great! So are walks on the beach



Comment by Lara M

August 20th 2007 07:43
It's great having a hubby who cooks isn't it, CC -- u are blessed! He must love the massages after cooking up a storm, eh

p/s...yes, it is Tiffany's



Oh, please don't stop writing poetry for women, David! The world needs your vivid and passionate words to live on -- single women need it for hope, comfort and *companionship*, attached women need it as a stimulant...and men need it to be reminded that all men should try to be as romantic... -- naturally, this is just my view...

[QUOTE]Ultra-independent femmo women only go for rich men (with cooking skills) who will support them financially and play househusband?[/QUOTE] ...we can all dream a little can't we...

Comment by Lara M

August 20th 2007 07:49
You're sucha good wife, Aimzster! The *kidnapping* strategy is cool I'll need to try it one day. I think indulging someone is sometimes as good a feeling as being indulged on -- I bet you felt just as happy and delirious as he did when you revealed the presents...way cool!



Comment by David

August 20th 2007 07:54
Lara,

Nup. That's it. My poetry has obviously been misused and abused. Other men are getting value out of it to my detriment. From now on I'm writing exclusively about politics, and matters of global importance. My mind's made up. I've decided to become a blogger.

David ...

Comment by Lara M

August 20th 2007 08:19
No...no...not misused nor abused, David. It's just being indulged as an element -- fueling the heat of passion and leading one to indulgence (both of the mind and body...)...




Comment by reader

August 21st 2007 07:29
I love to spoil my partner and I also love to be spoiled! My best treat received was a lovely dinner at a chic NY restaurant and then finding a little *gem* under my pillow!! Too bad we're no longer together...!

Comment by Always Eighteen

August 24th 2007 17:54
Hey Lara,


I'm a writer, so I'm definitely a hopeless romantic

How about you? What kind of romance tickles your fancy?


Always

Comment by Lara M

August 26th 2007 04:30
What a lovely way to be indulged, reader. The gem would've been a nice keepsake? <chuckle...>



Mmm...I'm a romantic at heart too, Dean. Well, it doesn't have to be fancy but I'd cherish if he had put some thought into it...and if he'd paid some attention to a few *details*... What about u?




Comment by Wynona Lavota

August 28th 2007 01:44
me? indluged? Oh stop it, that's hilarious!
But in Sonia's case I'm going to be the annoying one and suggest the time spent together is more important than presents *runs for cover*

Comment by Lara M

August 28th 2007 01:49
Very wise...and sweet, Wynona. 'Tis true isn't it...the time spent together is worth its weight in gold...if it's the person

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