What next?
October 3rd 2007 08:09
It has been an incredible evening. The date is going well. S/he is fun, nice, has a good sense of humour – whatever little boxes you have are ticked. Now as the evening approaches to an end…how would you like it to end?
b) A hot smooch that leads both hanging-on for more…
c) A peck on the cheek goodnight at the front door
d) A hot smooch…that has could lead to something else – but someone does go home after…
Many have been left in that quandary before. Whether a, b, c, or d was chosen, does it lead to the fate of the relationship? Is it too soon to get intimate? Must it be waited-out?
There shouldn’t be any rules about it, mused Sonia. The only rule for her is that she’s comfortable with him, and it feels right for her. Whether it happens on the first date or 10th date, it doesn’t bother her.
Pia on the other hand does not allow herself to get into bed with him till at least the third date. Her reason is, if he can wait till then…he’s probably more into me as a person than a fling. Though she’s married now, she never always *practiced* her rule…though she did with her (now) husband.
Emotions aside, some feel that physical intimacy is as important as (if not more important than) feelings.
Joe’s philosophy is ‘you’ve to test-drive it to see how it runs’…! He said that if he likes someone a lot, and there’s lots of sparks going off, and it’s reciprocated…then the test-bed is the next hurdle to jump.
Nick (engaged) agrees to an extent but thinks that jumping into bed too soon can sometimes change the dynamics of the relationship too soon. His idea is to get to know the person better - before the bed - making the experience a whole lot more meaningful.
How soon is too soon for physical intimacy with a person? Should we just go with our instincts…feelings? Just go with the flow…?
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Comment by katyzzz
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It was simpler in Adam and Eve's day. Maybe it was better that way. Just look what a great dynasty they created.
Great art. Forget the tarts and the studs. Just ensure the spuds.
katyzzz
Comment by Techno
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Hmmm, I didn't realize just how keen you chics are to give it away.
I'm learning good things already here.
Techno.
Comment by Ash
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Personally I think if you are looking for a relationship it`s better to keep 'em hanging. Play hard to get and tease a little before jumping in the sack. Sleep with him the first night as generally he has got what he has been looking for and chances are you won`t see him again (I have seen this time and time again with a very 'loose' friend of mine).
I speak for myself when I say us gals normally go out on dates with men we are really keen on with the hope of it going somewhere - maybe not forever but somewhere at least.
If you are looking for fun, hop into bed the first night, have your fun but don`t expect mcuh after that.
That`s just my opinion anyways.
Ash
Comment by Mr Nice Guy
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erectionssorry flippant choice of words - testaments to time are those which were painstaking built.I've always been a builder - I love the the way the bricks in laid in developing a relationship and how a solid base is built before taking things to the next level.
Old fashioned - perhaps - but what ever's comfortable for you both - that's what's important.
MNG
Comment by KylieW
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I know girls who hold out for quite a long time before sleeping with a guy. 3 of my other girlfriends are married to guys that they slept with before they ever actually had a date.
As long as you're comfortable with where things are going.
Comment by Louie
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i once worked with a guy who married a girl even after she spewed Red Wine all over the Beige Leather of his brand new Ferarri on the First date....he told me he knew it was love because he wasn't angry or appalled
Comment by Lara M
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I guess it depends what each person in that *relationship* wants out of it.
Ha Ha
While they like a good time, I don't think either of them gives it away easily for the sake of it...
Thanks for popping by.
I see what you mean,Ash. I think the problems set in when each person in that scenario has different objectives to start off with. So, all about managing your own expectations, huh... ...and like u said, what do u want out of it...
Comment by Lara M
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I know what you mean, Kylie. The gang and I have had endless *debates* on this, with no conclusion. It all comes back down to expectations I guess, and what each person is in it for.
Love 'the spew in the Ferrari story'! A classic love story!
Comment by Mrs M
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Comment by Lara M
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I think kissing is very *personal* and (like u said) sometimes can be (much!) more intimate than sex...