Lara M
Honey, let's move in together!
September 8th 2006 14:20
Cohabitation. You know, it’s when you stay together with your other halves under the same roof, yet you’re not exactly legally married….yet! Or, better yet, it’s something most of our conservative parents today would define as ‘living in sin’. Now, someone tell me again….why is this called living in sin?!
Looking at this from a high cultured (Asian - excuse the pun!) point of view, it has always been a tradition that couples should stay with their parents while they are dating and can only move in with their partners after they are legally married. This equates to us, the younger and more hip generation, showing some form of respect to our elders and to ourselves.
However, (moms, dads, aunties, uncles, grannies and grandpas) bear in mind that times have changes and things today are very different from that they used to be many years ago. For one, hell of a lot more young people are moving places, either to bigger cities and more developed (and western) countries to live and work and/or study. So, at some point there’s bound to be some domestication involved with the opposite sex (it might not be a partner, it might be just a male housemate – enough to make parents freak out!). Plus, it’s not so much as a taboo now compared to when our parents were growing up (their parents were more hard on them back then). Hey, the country’s developing and so are we all – and that include our mindsets and ways of thinking!
Consider this situation: young couple in their mid 20s seriously committed with each other for the past year or so, up till the extent that it’s nauseating everyone around them! In fact, things are going extremely well for both of them, they could practically be married by now (and don’t you dare start those ‘but they’re still young and there’s commitment’ crap with me!). Well, the only thing stopping them from tying the knot is their career/studies and the money factor. So, while working/studying in the big city of the oh-so-developed country, and to save costs….they move in together into a cute apartment unit so that they can split the cost of the rent and bills (and have their own privacy).
Now, wouldn’t that make more sense, rather than say, moving into separate studio apartments next door or 1 block away from each others? That’s the crappiest arrangement anyone could ever make, if you ask me! C’mon…it’s not such a big crime after all. Think of all the money that can be saved and on the plus side, they get to know and understand each other better now when they’re facing each other almost 24/7. It’s like a sneak preview of what married life would be like and whether they’re cut out for it. It’s a test to tell if they are really meant for each other….and whether they can stand living together under the same roof….or are they already starting to despise each other’s gut by the end of month 1. And, at this age, it’s fair to say that they’re mature enough to differentiate what’s good and bad for them (different story if this was applied to a bunch of love struck teenagers though – sorry, only adults get to play house!).
So, open up your eyes and minds people! This is the 21st century we’re living in…not the dark ages anymore. Oh, and if you’re wondering about the said couple….well, they’re still cohabitating – just waiting for the right moment and financial security to complete the fairy tale ending, and begin a new chapter of their lives together.
Cheers!
Looking at this from a high cultured (Asian - excuse the pun!) point of view, it has always been a tradition that couples should stay with their parents while they are dating and can only move in with their partners after they are legally married. This equates to us, the younger and more hip generation, showing some form of respect to our elders and to ourselves.
However, (moms, dads, aunties, uncles, grannies and grandpas) bear in mind that times have changes and things today are very different from that they used to be many years ago. For one, hell of a lot more young people are moving places, either to bigger cities and more developed (and western) countries to live and work and/or study. So, at some point there’s bound to be some domestication involved with the opposite sex (it might not be a partner, it might be just a male housemate – enough to make parents freak out!). Plus, it’s not so much as a taboo now compared to when our parents were growing up (their parents were more hard on them back then). Hey, the country’s developing and so are we all – and that include our mindsets and ways of thinking!
Consider this situation: young couple in their mid 20s seriously committed with each other for the past year or so, up till the extent that it’s nauseating everyone around them! In fact, things are going extremely well for both of them, they could practically be married by now (and don’t you dare start those ‘but they’re still young and there’s commitment’ crap with me!). Well, the only thing stopping them from tying the knot is their career/studies and the money factor. So, while working/studying in the big city of the oh-so-developed country, and to save costs….they move in together into a cute apartment unit so that they can split the cost of the rent and bills (and have their own privacy).
Now, wouldn’t that make more sense, rather than say, moving into separate studio apartments next door or 1 block away from each others? That’s the crappiest arrangement anyone could ever make, if you ask me! C’mon…it’s not such a big crime after all. Think of all the money that can be saved and on the plus side, they get to know and understand each other better now when they’re facing each other almost 24/7. It’s like a sneak preview of what married life would be like and whether they’re cut out for it. It’s a test to tell if they are really meant for each other….and whether they can stand living together under the same roof….or are they already starting to despise each other’s gut by the end of month 1. And, at this age, it’s fair to say that they’re mature enough to differentiate what’s good and bad for them (different story if this was applied to a bunch of love struck teenagers though – sorry, only adults get to play house!).
So, open up your eyes and minds people! This is the 21st century we’re living in…not the dark ages anymore. Oh, and if you’re wondering about the said couple….well, they’re still cohabitating – just waiting for the right moment and financial security to complete the fairy tale ending, and begin a new chapter of their lives together.
Cheers!
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