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Love Speaks - June 2007

Things to do to get over 'IT'

June 20th 2007 08:33
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Like many people, I'vehad my fair share of heartaches. After that, I often think 'Ok, that's enough. No more.' Then it happens again! I guess that's just Mother Nature's way of strengthening us -- to quote Nietzsche "That which does not kill us makes us stronger."





The problem is, we sometimes do not forget those heartaches. You can try really hard... but it still won't leave your mind! It'’s driving you insane... so what do you do?

Here's what I've done:
On the extreme side of things...moved to another continent!
On the not-so-extreme side...moved to another country, and moved to another part of town. I'm not really a runner...eally, but I guess at that particular time, I felt a deep desire to start afresh somewhere else. Somewhere, it wouldn't hurt to walk down a particular street or go to the supermarket...!

On the normal side of things...
- I love to lose myself in a good chick flick -- know! I know..sometimes the emotions are made worst by the flick!... but I draw on the consolation that I'm not alone in it -- silly I know...

Anyway, I asked a few of my friends, and these are some of the things they have done and still do

chocolate chip ice cream dessert



Nina: 1) Buy tubs of ice-cream! Doesn't matter how much of it I need...I just want enough near me! 2) Shopping, shopping, shopping! -- Nothing like good some retail therapy to lift me up.

Brad: Go surfing at dawn till I'm utterly exhausted, then getting a six-pack and tuning-in to the sports channel -- good part is, there's no one nagging me to get off the sports channel!

Patricia: Getting pampered at the spa! Nothing like having someone wait on me, and willing to listen to my sob story.

Joe: Get under someone else!

red heart doctor


Ok, some QUICK fixes...and some radical ideas?!

What about you?
What have you done or still do... be it crazy, funny, strange or normal...?











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Comment by katyzzz

June 20th 2007 09:07


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Just wait,Lara, it can take a long time.

In 10 years time you'll know what he is really like and then you'll say, yuk.

Trust Joe to come up with something that would suit him well enough.

Not much help, I know and I'm sorry.

It takes time, baaaby!!!! new song.

katyzzz

Comment by Lara M

June 20th 2007 09:15


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Hi katyzzz Yes...I reckon in time, I will realise that it was for the better! YEeeeS, when Joe told me that, I said: trust u to say that...! Having said that though, I have a girlfriend who thinks if 'we can't beat 'em...join 'em...!'

Comment by charliesgirl_992000

June 21st 2007 23:21


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OMG it's been more then ten years since i last had my heart broke. I pretty much did what you did, Move to another part of town. Cry ALOT, started taking wayyy too many tylonol PM's just to be able to sleep. I was up to 13. Thats crazy!! <laugh> but he did stalk me, and i could sleep for like three and a half years. He had cheated. i had already gotten an order of protection from abuse. didn't know he cheated at that time, but when i found out, that was it, i would NOT take him back. i was heart brocken but moved on. Men!!! he didn't want me back until i met hubby. and then he made our life hell for 3.5 years. We where realy lucky to get out of it. I think that whole situation helped me to gain weight. subconsciously you thought the weight would get him to leave you alone. it worked. lol now i just gotta shed it some how. Pluss hubbies cooking and sweeping me off my feet didn't help. he soo spoils me. <soft smile>
ok, too much info i know, but there it is. It's what all made me who i am today and to apreciate life as much as i do.
Hope yours goes easier then mine did! It does get better.
Tammy

Comment by Lara M

June 21st 2007 23:35


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Awww Tammy...I'm glad that period is finally over for u, and it sounds like your hubby is a real sweetheart. "It's what all made me who i am today and to apreciate life as much as i do." Totally agree with u on that one!

It is better already...thanks!


Comment by gurl

June 22nd 2007 15:26
Believe it or not I was onehelluva stubborn babe to get myself out of a "caribbean rut"! Sounds lovely but hey it was a heart-breaking roller coaster ride...till one day i "unleashed" myself. Felt the feeling of liberation when I consciously decided to tell him subtlely..."Go !@#$%^ yourself!" VOILA! By then I had already deliberately "picked" up a bloke whilst partying the nite away...it was good while it lasted for at least 2 years with him overseas and me at home-sweet-home -- we had mutual feelings and attraction! {{{{smirk}}}} Ahhhh...talking about it brings back that sweet memories...and a song that goes with it (ugh! can't remember that song title!haha)..by Barry White! All in all, I'd say 'feel the pain though no gain...when you're closed to the soul of the world, nature takes over and say 'Let Go, let God.'

Cool stuff Lara! Enjoy reading ur stories so far!

Comment by Lara M

June 23rd 2007 02:25


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Hi Gurl...it's amazing how our minds sometimes work -- we *fight* that conscious stream of thought that's trying to stop us from hurting ourselves; thinking that, that (conscious stream of thought) is the *bad* thing.

Am glad you've managed to come to a realisation, and are good to yourself now Perhaps we do need to experience the *bad* to accept the good...

Thank you for sharing






Comment by Ahmed

November 12th 2007 05:23


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Not sure if any of that works for me, don't really like eating lots of ice cream (a little lactose intolerant ) chick flicks are booooring (though I'm beginning to like romantic comedies a little bit) can't change cities/countries/continents to damned erm... difficult/not worth the effort/I'm already on the other side of the country how much further away can I get?

I think I just prefer dealing iwht it and letting it come and go whenever it feels like. Trying to escape it may only make it worse in the long run...

Comment by Lara M

November 15th 2007 06:05


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Hmmm...I hope u get through it well and soon, Ahmed. I think sometimes, the *escapes* helps to minimise the intensity of the heartbreak...not so much as a means to the end.

p/s...I hear *comfort foods* are good too...

Comment by Ahmed

November 15th 2007 06:19


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haha, well I'm at that stage where my pain is more from a realization that I can go on without her, so it's all in the mending process.

But I don't really have much of an apetite for anything

Comment by Lara M

November 15th 2007 06:26


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Glad you're on the mend! Hope u get your appetite back soon...

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