Fair-weather friends?
June 18th 2008 01:58
We have (and have had) friendships – and probably realise that friendships come in a variety of shapes, sizes and dynamics. What makes some friendship last (a long time), and what makes some friendship slowly fizzle away?
Sonia recently found out that a good friend Celine (made about six years ago while she was working in Europe) was in town but she didn’t know about it till she saw photos of Celine’s holiday on Facebook! Needless to say she was surprised and hurt that her good friend didn’t attempt to even schedule a quick coffee/drink in the week she was here. Sure, Celine had a toddler in tow and was doing kiddie activities but surely there was a short window for a quick catch-up…?
Sonia then wondered if it was the way she responded to Celine’s e-mail some months back saying that she (working around her manic work schedule) would love to catch-up whenever Celine was in town. Sonia wonders had it sounded that she was too busy…? Surely, Celine whom she had shared many deep and meaningful sessions with would never think that of her…or had she?
Perhaps friendships across continents could sometimes take its toll, especially if certain dynamics in the friendship has changed – e.g. marriage, family, career, and the likes of it.
Like Sonia, I’ve lived around the world and made many friends – some of whom I’m still very close to, and (I don’t think) it’ll ever change, as we seem to pick up from where we left off each time. However, there are the few that has changed (for whatever reasons) and they no longer care to keep in touch or even seem *unapproachable*
What do you think changes the dynamics of friendships? What are your encounters in this world of friendship?
Images courtesy of Kakisky (gingerbread people) and elemenoperica (dog and cat) MorgueFile, and Nina (friendship rings).
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Comment by Michaelie
Flick Wit
The ones that annoy me are the people who befriend you because they want something, or because the going is good. Turn to them when you really need them, and you will soon see what the friendship is really made of.
Sadly, I have been put in this position, with a friend who was great fun, but she was an opportunist. If the going ever got tough, she got going, straight to the next person from whom she could benefit.
It happens - I'm much more careful about who I trust these days.
Michaelie
Comment by Aimzster
Reality TV
The Jeepney Stop
First Time Mum
Comment by KylieW
Celebrity Obsession
It does hurt, but as people grow it's inevitable that friends will come and go.
Comment by Lara M
Love Speaks
Food Slate
Yes, Aimzster...some friendships are meant to last the distance -- and those are the real friendships.
Thanks for your thoughts, ladies.